The dream of everybody is to have a healthy relationship but not everybody can sacrifice what it takes to build or develop a healthy relationship. At the initial stage of every relationship, things tend to be going smoothly between the lovers as the relationship is still fresh and they have not started showing their bad attitudes or behaviours. However, as time goes on different problem arises due to lack of understanding, commitment, and communication among others. Thus, here are some tips for building a healthy relationship.
It is important to keep doing the things you did when you first met such as showing love and loyalty, expressing respect and appreciation, Conveying honesty and trust, working together to achieve your relationship goal. Commitment is people’s intention to be together. All relationships require a certain degree of commitment. The main goal of commitment in relationships is for each partner to feel secured.
2. Do not expect too much from your partner
Having expectations in a relationship is not a bad thing but too much it may be hurt at times. You need to remember that your partner is not a perfect person as he/she also has his/her own flaws or weakness. Understanding him/her will make you accept him/her the way he or she is and maintain a healthy relationship. Also, don’t just be the receiver; learn how to give also because a relationship is all about giving and taking.
3. Be aware of your partner’s temperament:
This implies understanding the emotional and psychological nature of your partner; is your partner a kind of person that gets angry easily or has a hot temper, is he/she the type of person that does crazy things, what makes him/her happy or what makes him/her sad. Knowing all these will help you in maintaining peaceful coexistence with your partner.
4. Be caring:
Caring about someone goes beyond asking a question about “How was their day” or whether they have eaten; anybody can ask about that. When you care about someone you make time for him/her, send him/her random cute lovely messages, make them feel special, ask about their plans for future, seek their advice on important matters and so on. All these will make your partner feel loved and being cared for.
Good communication is a fundamental part of a healthy relationship. When you experience a positive emotional connection with your partner, you feel safe and happy. When people stop communicating well, they stop relating well, and times of change or stress can really bring out the disconnect. It may sound simplistic, but as long as you are communicating, you can usually work through whatever problems you’re facing. So, much of our communication is transmitted by what we don’t say. Nonverbal cues, which include eye contact, tone of voice, posture, and gestures such as leaning forward, crossing your arms, or touching someone’s hand, communicate much more than words. When you can pick up on your partner’s nonverbal cues or “body language,” you’ll be able to tell how they really feel and be able to respond accordingly. For a relationship to work well, each person has to understand their own and their partner’s nonverbal cues.
6. Give him/her attention: Spend some time together
Break out of the “dinner and a movie” routine, and watch how a little novelty can truly rejuvenate your relationship. On a budget and can’t go big? Jump on the internet to look for “cheap date ideas” and be blown away at the plethora of options. Can’t afford a sitter? Try swapping babysitting time with friends that have kids. It’s free, and they will likely be thrilled to take your kids because they will get to take advantage when they drop their kids at your place.
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7.Learn how to peacefully resolve conflict
Conflict is inevitable in whenever there is two or more person; even many at times we do have conflict within our self (Intrapersonal conflict), but to maintain a healthy relationship, both parties need to feel they’ve been heard. A relationship is not a battlefield hence; the goal is to maintain a healthy and peaceful relationship not to find a winner or loser.
8. Understanding: Seek to understand, not agree.
Easy in concept, difficult in application. Conversations quickly turn to arguments when we’re invested in hearing our partner admit that we were right or when we are intent on changing their opinion. Choose to approach a conversation as an opportunity to understand your significant other’s perspective as opposed to waiting for them to concede. From this perspective, we have an interesting dialogue and prevent a blowout or lingering frustration.
9. Never hesitate to apologize whenever there is need to do so. Make your apology count.
It’s well understood that apologizing is a good thing, but it only makes a real impact when you mean it. Saying things like “I’m sorry you feel that way,” “I’m sorry you see it that way,” or “I’m sorry if I upset you” are a waste of time and breath. Even if you don’t agree that your action was wrong, you will never successfully argue a feeling.
Accept that your partner feels hurt. From this place, a real apology can have a significant impact. When you love your partner and hurt them (intentionally or not), you can always legitimately apologize for the pain you caused, regardless of your perspective on what you did or didn’t do.
You are now officially armed with a comprehensive guide for how to have a healthy relationship.